At around 8 months pregnant after returning from a glorious holiday in Italy, I screamed whilst bathing my 3 year old. Not because I had seen a humongous spider or my favourite Kiehls Musk shower gel had been emptied into the bath by my 3 year old, nope it was the hideous bathroom I was facing. You see we had just stayed in the most beautiful hotel in Italy with the most beautiful en suite bathroom and I was now home faced with mould, unspeakable lighting fixtures and generally a bathroom I could not longer live with. My wonderful husband reluctantly gave it a new lease of life and his now 8 and a half month pregnant wife was once again happy. He declared it my baby present or push present and I was extremely grateful for his DIY skills. I could now bathe in a glorious haven and feel like Cleopatra, kind of.
(A month later post birth, my body looked unrecognisable and the last thing I wanted to do was lie in a bath and be faced with wobbly bits. Showers were the only way forward and my push present didn’t seem quite so appropriate. But my husband stuck to his guns and said that was my gift so stop moaning, gutted.)
A ‘push present or ‘push gift’ is a term that has developed from America, well let’s face it they love giving something a special name, y’all. The partner gives the present to the mother to mark the occasion of her giving birth to their child. In practice the present may be given before or after the birth, or even in the delivery room. But word on the labour ward is that a bunch of roses aint going cut the mustard and us pregnant ladies expect more for giving up alcohol for 9 months. Here are some stories from fellow Mamas out there.
Rachel from Whenthebabysleeps says “My push present? Well, the day after I had my son I was brought a deliciously strong cappuccino from the hospital cafe ‘to hurry along the poo’ so we could go home. The coffee was delicious, and it worked. The *real* push present came a few days later when my husband handed me a voucher for a massage at a local salon. My response was something like this: “Nobody’s ever touching me ever again, but thanks anyway.”
Alice from MoreThanToast and MAMAUk tells me “When I had my last baby my husband bought me a beautiful tunic top from my friend’s boutique, popthefashionstore She kindly knocked a bit of the price down for him but because he was in such a rush to get to hospital to see me and the new baby he got a parking ticket for stopping on double yellows. So now my lovely push present is one of the most expensive tops I own!”
Gill from ABabyOnBoard had a more traditional present, “My husband really wanted me to have a post-baby birth present (and as he bought himself a new TV when we found out I was pregnant, claiming “it’s the last non-child thing I’ll be able to buy!” it seemed only fair that I had something for actually having the baby!) We both wanted it to be something that was meaningful and symbolic, so after lots of discussion he’s having a ring made for me with three diamonds scattered around the band, one for each member of our little family”.
Has anyone else got an push present story they want to share? ‘I got a take away cous cous salad from the hospital canteen’ is one wonderful story I have heard, men really have no imagination when left to their own devices.
And with that I leave you with this, go push it, push it real good Mamas you deserve it.