7 days in Sunny April…..

Last week I returned back to work having had a week off. Ahhh a week off, time spent with my kids, getting through those pesky jobs which linger in the corners of my home, an essential mani/pedi and the joys of no on calls!  Having a week off means you essentially have a weeks worth of births to catch up on, emails and lots of texts from women who often want to change appointments due to work commitments.

heavs Saturday: I discharged my super star woman who had a beautiful home birth on the day of the Grand National, despite being adamant throughout her pregnancy that she would be in hospital with all the drugs available for her. Fortunately for her, her labour was quick and perfect in every way and her little baby girl was born on the living room floor 3 minutes after the race ended. (more on that in next weeks post). I then received not one but TWO presents, totally spoilt but totally amazing!  

photo (3)Sunday: I was on labour ward on a beautiful warm Spring day with an induction. The woman and her partner were fab and we kept each other going  with the Times crossword, Haribo Starmix and talked baby names. It was so hot on labour ward I rocked out the no socks and Converse look, luckily I had remembered to shave my legs!

photo (4)Monday: I immersed my watch in a birthing pool last month, it steamed up and eventually died so decided to treat myself this snazzy Swatch watch, added bonus that its waterproof!  Time is of the essence when you’re a midwife, I just wish I had more of it to share about.

photo (5)Tuesday: Hello sunshine, hello happy midwife! Nothing quite like a bit of great weather to get you smiling when you wake up! Had a busy day of weighing and checking a new born, helping a couple prepare for the birth of their first baby with their birth plan and booking my newly pregnant women due in November. November feels like so far away on a warm Spring day. Lunch was eaten outside on the garden of the GP surgery where I’m based, alfresco style.

photo (6)Wednesday: I was on call and back on labour ward with a woman having a long old labour, poor girl was knackered and despite all the our best efforts she was just too tired to push her baby out. I had to get the doctors in to give her a hand and she ended up having a forceps delivery. I felt knackered by 2am so god knows how she felt. I say boo to forceps but she and her baby boy were both doing really well by the morning. Congratulations!

photo (7)Thursday: The beautiful sunshine continued to warm my skin and having caught up on some sleep, I oiled and tweaked (read my husband) my battered old bike and rode off to do my visits. I use to have a really nice bike but it got nicked so when I finally replaced it I decided the more rusty and old looking the less likely it would be nicked again, so far so good! The perfect day was blessed with a perfect home water birth, and as I rode off home to see my girls I thought ‘I have the best job in the world’.

photo (8)Friday: Day off! Which is such a blessing, caught up with a friend whilst our little ones threw themselves about at the soft play and had an evening out with my husband and friends in a great  local pub. My mind was totally switched off from work until I walked home and spotted the full moon. A full moon to midwives means only one thing, lots of births! I had a peak at my emails when I got home and lets just say the moon is often right!

photo (9)Saturday: I spent the day with my wonderful little family at the South Bank, eating yummy noodles, watching the boats pass by and getting soaked in a freak shower. Oh and I couldn’t help but check my emails again, 2 more births, that pesky full moon kept my colleagues busy!

I hope you all enjoyed the beautiful weather, what did everyone else get up to?

1 in 5

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Here are some hilarious and quite worrying statistics taken from a US poll published in the Huffington Post this week.

1 in 5 people believe witches are real

1 in 5 people do not use the internet

1 in 5 people urinate in the pool

1 in 5 people can’t identify the US on a map

Pretty funny really, but what about that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in a miscarriage before 12 weeks? Not really so funny. I have never been so unfortunate to have had a miscarriage. When I was pregnant with my second baby, I spotted from 5 weeks up until 10 weeks. It was really horrible, some days it was just a small amount of brown spotting but some days it was fresh blood. My husband and I had to just carry on, I went to work with the knowledge that I could indeed be miscarrying the pregnancy but there wan’t much I could do. I did have the benefit of being able to pop into the Early Pregnancy Clinic where a Consultant scanned me every week. But even this didn’t put my mind at rest, I saw a tiny flicker of a heart beat and the small baked bean growing but the bleeding continued. Finally by my 12 week scan everything looked normal and I could just about relax (despite throwing up every evening.)

As a case loading midwife, I book all my women at home before they reach their 12th week of pregnancy (ideally by 10) following the NICE guidelines and ensuring they receive the correct information surrounding antenatal screening.  I love this first meeting with my women, hopefully meeting their partner and children if this isn’t their first baby, building the relationship that will continue throughout the pregnancy and postnatal period.  We have a cup of tea and chat through the necessities whilst also getting to know each other. Their 12 week scan is booked and I leave saying ‘good luck with the scan, let me know if there any problems’, and plan to see them by 18 weeks.

Last week I received a text from one of my women, her scan hadn’t gone well and the sonographer told them the devastating news that she had had a ‘missed miscarriage’.

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A missed miscarriage or a silent miscarriage is when the embryo stops developing but the pregnancy can still continue. Or it may be that an embryo started to grow, but failed to progress. It’s called a missed miscarriage because you won’t realise that anything has gone wrong. You may not have had any of the usual signs of miscarriage, such as pain or bleeding. Your body may still be giving you signals that you are pregnant, though if your hormone levels are falling, those signs may lessen slightly. Your breasts may feel less tender, or you may find your pregnancy sickness has stopped sooner than expected.

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I felt really shocked and saddened for my woman and her partner. Even though I had just met them a few weeks before, I felt like we had been friends for a long time I was really looking forward to being their midwife.  I offered my love and support but they felt that they would cope together in their own way and would contact me if they became pregnant again. Before becoming a case loading midwife I underestimated the ‘1 in 5’ statistic. When I worked on labour ward all I would know about their history was a small printed column in their pregnancy notes saying ‘miscarriage’. It was never really appropriate to mention it especially as they would be in labour and I didn’t always think it was relevant to this pregnancy.

A have a few friends who have had miscarriages but gone on to have healthy pregnancies. Who knows if my friends ever think about the tiny little beans that didn’t develop or make it for one reason or another. All I know is I will never take those booking appointments for granted and hope I get to see my women all the way through their pregnancies and meet their perfect baby.

For more information and support on miscarriage please visit The Miscarriage Association’s website

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk

I’d just like to thank…….

liebster

Oof, bit slow on this one but I have been nominated for a little award! The Liebster award is a really great idea where bloggers nominate other smalls blogs which they like or are inspired by in one way or another. The lovely Charlotte and Lil over at I’m Only Saying What You’re Thinking nominated me last month and due to the crazy amount of babies being either conceived or being born, my blog has been a little abandoned. Sorry blog.

“The Liebster Award is for bloggers with under 300 followers and the rules of the award is that the nominee must link back to whoever awarded them, write 11 random facts about themselves, answer the 11 questions from the award giver, and then nominate another 11 bloggers and make up 11 questions for them to answer. It’s a great way for new and undiscovered bloggers to meet new people, get more followers and find some blogs that they want to follow.”
1. What’s your favourite thing to do when you have time alone?
It sounds really shallow, but having a mani/pedi is a little luxury I treat myself once a month in my local nail bar. Even on a wet rainy day I love going in, admiring the rainbow of little glass bottles of varnishes. Just an hour is all I need to clear my head whilst my hand and feet are rubbed, massaged and painted. My colour choice always depends on my mood, yesterday I went for ‘Cajun Shrimp’ bright enough to get me in the mood for Summer. (Summer, where are you?)
2. If you could move to any place in the world, where would it be?
London where I live! I couldn’t leave all my family and friends despite the crap weather I still think it’s the best city in the world.
3. What item will you be coveting for the new season?
A classic mac. I’ve never owned one and every Spring I think I must invest in one, they look so sleek and stylish and never date.
4. What’s your favourite season?
Summer for sure, the days are lighter and warmer, I love being in the park past 6pm having picnics with friends whilst the girls play for hours, the smell of Summer and fresh air on their sun kissed skin is heavenly. The sun really is the source of all happiness.
5. Drink of choice?
Red wine, and G&T’s.
6. A childhood memory?
Christmas day aged 6 getting a doll house, it had working lights I can’t wait to pass it on to my girls.
7. Tea or coffee?
Tea.
8. What’s your favourite dish to cook?
Any curry, Thai, Sri Lankan or Indian I just love all the spices and flavours that ooze through the kitchen.
9. Favourite TV programme?
Girls.
10. Celeb crush?
Ryan Gosling obvs but there’s something about Harry Styles I just can’t not stare into them (did I just admit that?)
11. What 5 people (dead or alive) would you invite to a dinner party?
Harry Styles (just to stare at)
Cherry Healey (for style tips)
Mary Berry (she’d bring desert, obvs)
My bff Ruth and her bff Polly cos together they are hilarious!
Right I nominate
And my questions are
1. What did you have for breakfast today?
2. First album bought?
3. Roses or Peonies?
4. What inspired your child’s name?
5. Favourite item of clothing?
6. Vogue or Elle?
7. Favourite blog?
8. Best thing about being a Mama
9. And the worst?
10. What do you remember about your midwife?
11. Best tip for a clueless Mama to be?