Guest Post- How I ended up as a Midwife’s Assistant

I often get asked by people ‘Why did you become a midwife’?  To be honest the answer has changed over the years but I knew I always wanted to work with children and I knew I loved babies. But now it’s much more about the women. For me, at just the tender age of 18 (gulp) there was no gap year to be had after finishing my A-Levels, it was straight to Uni in Bristol as I wanted to embark on this exciting course. As midwifery is a vocational degree I knew I would have a job at the end of it all and to be honest I couldn’t wait to get stuck in.

It’s mad to think the whole of my working life to date has been midwifery based.  How can you really know at 18 what you want to do for the rest of your life?  For many midwives I’ve met along the way they didn’t know, and left all sorts of jobs to re train as a midwife. Louie is one of those people, she hasn’t started her midwifery course yet….. she has decided to embark on a career change as a Midwife Support Worker. Louie joined our case loading team in December to support us 6 midwives. Is she brave or just mad? Either way she’s amazing. Here’s her side of the story.

I was terrified of blood and it meant taking a pay cut – but it’s been worth it!

Louie and Florence

Louie and Florence

After uni, I wanted to rebel against my teacher parents and enter a ‘glamorous’ profession so I did a post-grad in journalism and got a job on Take a Break, the weekly magazine you might have read at the dentist. It wasn’t exactly Marie Claire, but as a Features Writer, I got invited to PR launches, bagged lots of freebies and even wangled a press trip to Spain. As for the work, I helped reunite long-lost relatives, chased a stolen child across Italy and tracked down a paedophile. The hours were regular, the pay was good and I spent most Friday afternoons down the pub. What more could a 25 year old want?

But the job had big downsides too. I was often asked to ring a recently bereaved relative to ask if they wanted to tell their story (ambulance chasing as it’s known in the business). A few – amazingly – said yes, but a lot told me where to go. When I did convince someone to speak, I felt uncomfortable asking them the lurid questions I needed answering in order to make the story as sensational as possible. After about five years, I knew I needed to change careers – but to what?

Then in 2008, I had my first child, Arthur, closely followed by Florence in 2009. During my pregnancies and labours, I met some amazing midwives but also some rude and unhelpful ones. It struck me how much power a midwife has to make your experience a magical or an upsetting one. To try and make sure more women got a magical experience, I started volunteering at my local hospital, sitting on a committee whose aim was improve maternity services there. I walked round the postnatal ward, asking women their opinions and fed them back to the staff . I loved hearing everyone’s birth stories and discussing important issues. It was all the things I had enjoyed about journalism – but without any of the downsides.

It was while doing this that an idea started forming in my mind: I wanted to be a midwife. There was just one problem – I was terrified of blood. Everyone in my family is a big wuss: I still remember my dad sitting with his head between his knees, trying not to throw up because my Mum had tripped over and broken her tooth. As for me, I’d had to lie down after blood tests during my pregnancies. Not exactly the stern stuff midwives have to be made of!

And yet, I couldn’t shake the idea. So when I heard about a role called a Maternity Support Worker (MSW), I decided to apply. It meant assisting midwives with everything from weighing babies to removing catheters and – eek! – taking blood. Would I faint or could I be the first person in my family to ever work in a hospital? There was only one way to find out!

On my first day in the job, I was absolutely petrified. I managed not to faint but I did have to leave the room when a midwife was describing a particularly nasty obstetric emergency. I persevered, though, and gradually got used to talking about – and seeing – lots of blood. They say the best way to overcome your fears is to confront them head on – and working on a postnatal ward was definitely that for me!

The first time I actually had to take blood from someone, I was convinced I would hit an artery and see blood go splashing everywhere. But somehow, I managed to stay calm and do the job – although my hands were slippery with sweat afterwards!

With that fear conquered, I felt optimistic I could do other stuff without fainting too. A few weeks in, I watched a caesarean section and found myself more fascinated than scared. The same was true when I watched a normal birth – I was just in awe, both of the woman giving birth but also of the brilliant midwives I saw helping her.

I worked in the hospital for four months and then was given a role helping a small team of community midwives who do a lot of homebirths. Now I spend my days driving around, giving breastfeeding advice to women and doing the heel prick test on newborns. The midwives I work with are some of the most inspiring women I’ve come across and I adore helping women in those precious early days following a baby’s birth.

The pay’s not amazing but even a bad day in my new job is better than the best day I ever had doing journalism. I really like the fact I’m helping people and it’s invigorating learning so many new things every day.

Will I train to be a midwife? Who knows. For now, I’m loving my role as an MSW and would recommend it to anyone. And at least if I do go the whole hog and retrain, I know I won’t faint at the first drop of blood!

For more information about training as a Midwife Support Worker go to nhscareers.nhs.uk

8 thoughts on “Guest Post- How I ended up as a Midwife’s Assistant

  1. Wow. I would love love love this job. I’ve just had to quit my job after maternity leave (childcare cost related) and when I have one in school and one in nursery this is what I want to do. Amazing

      • No vacancies in my area 😦
        I’m gonna keep checking though. I think midwives are amazing, and only met one grumpy one through 2 pregnancies (she actually told me my daughter must have been weighed wrong at brith at the 5 day check because she had put on so much weight). You guys do something incredible and to be part of that in a tiny way would be such a satisfying job!

  2. This is a really great post! I often think about why i became a student midwife and as i’m getting interviews for jobs i feel i have to come up with the perfect answer to ‘why do you want to be a midwife?’ my answer is far from ‘i’ve always wanted to do this’… i think i might write something like this and hopefully i’ll find out!
    MSWs are amazing, their role is so important and they deserve much more money because they have a lot of responsibility!

    • It’s so hard to in point the exact reason as mine does change as time goes on. But the bottom line is that supporting women through the most incredible time of their life is an honour and I couldn’t or wouldn’t want to do anything else. good luck with the interviews you’ll be ace! xx

  3. I’ve been reading your blog from your first few entries after stumbling across your instagram after a comment you made on one of Cherry Healey’s pictures (!)
    I have been visiting daily, eagerly awaiting my next fixture!

    I wanted to say thankyou. A very big thankyou. I had a mental health breakdown just over 6 years ago, 3 months before my 21st birthday – nothing premeditated, infact, 2006 was the best year of my life. Someone I work closely with at the moment in my support network stated sometimes when our minds become so relaxed, it’s when things we’ve often bottled up hit us full force – but i’m more than sure she articulated it far better than I just did!

    I have suffered 2 miscarriages in my life, & I have been single since a year after my breakdown. I can now say I am making a very slow recovery, but since I was a child I remember secretly drawing pictures of women cradling babies in hospital beds – I think I’d watched too much casualty (!) (& with my mother having had me in her 40’s in the 80’s & us not having a very motherly daughterly bond at the time – I thought I was a bit weird!)
    I used to say I had after school dance classes so I could sneak off to the library & read midwifery books / text books. I even studied childcare at school for my GCSEs. I ended up in & out of daycares for many years, never truly settling, & also had a second job working in retail (which I ended up working in fulltime after deciding daycares / nurserys weren’t my vocation – I adored children, especially watching the babies grow, learn, & develop – but it just didn’t feel ‘right’ – I couldn’t settle).

    Over recent years I’ve become much closer to my mother, as I’ve had to reside at home for the time being after developing some ongoing health problems too. Now I’m on the road to recovery mentally, I don’t want to give up my dream of midwifery, afterall, I’ll only be turning 27 this year – & this post truly brought so many happy tears to my face. To know I could see what my capabilities would be, if (physically) I could hold up with my health problems – & still have the best of both worlds in helping both mother & child has given me so much hope for my future, & as ludicrous & random as this comment may be to receive, I really thank you & the guest poster for writing this, as it’s given me my hope back that, once I’m better, I can aim for the stars again.

    Thankyou so much. I’ll always be a loyal reader, & I hope one day in the future to return with a big fat smile on my face & point to my MSW uniform with pride (watch this space…)
    All the very best to you & your utterly beautiful family,
    Laura xxx

  4. Wow Laura what an honest and heartfelt comment! I’ve never felt so touched and overwhelmed by a comment left by an complete stranger! I’m so glad you like my blog, I often wonder is is reading it or am I just banging away on the keyboard for the hell of it! It sounds like you’ve got your screwed on so follow your dreams and get yourself back on track. An MSW role is a great way to dip your toe into the midwifery world and maybe just maybe you’ll even decided to train as a midwife!
    x

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