Missed me?

I’m back readers and I’m ready for anything. I’ve dusted myself off and I’ve got fire in my belly for another round of blogging.

It hasn’t been easy working out how I’m going to come back with the follow up blog post after that post. I was buzzing from the attention the blog post got almost a million people read it and I’m really proud of that. The comments and the amount if shares it got blew my tiny mind.

To cut a long story short and to clear up any confusion or questions you may have about my lack of presence or where the hell has that blog post disappeared to, I’m going to explain. Briefly.

In short that post was meant to be another honest blog post. Sharing my experienceΒ and challenge society’s attitude towards how we feed our children. No harm or hatred was ever meant to come from it. No disrespect to my fellow colleagues or mothers was ever intended. And yes 99% of the comments and feed back I received was AMAZING! Like beyond anything I could have ever imagined. But there were a few people who weren’t happy. (who are of course entitled to their own opinion) but felt to need to complain. And by complain I mean get the big wigs involved. So after many hurtful and bordering on cyber bullying comments left on various forums and social media groups and pages I decided to take the post down. It was attracting the wrong sort of crowd and comments and of course I didn’t want to jeopardise my professional career as a midwife.

So there. It’s gone, deleted in the waves of the World Wide Web. And what a funny web was weaved. But I’m back and ready for anything. Unfortunately due to my long silence I have developed an case of writers block. So I’m asking you readers…..

What do you want me to write about?

My next blog post will be on what you guys want (within reason) but I’ll really try to listen to you because after all if it wasn’t for my amazing followers I wouldn’t be here in the first place.

 

23 thoughts on “Missed me?

  1. Sad that a well-intentioned post received so many negative responses, but welcome back! I’d love to read some pregnancy or labor myth-busting. I’m a 22 week first-time mom to be and there seem to be a lot of old wives tales that still float around. Any of your favourites?

    • I like this idea, too. I am 31 weeks and this is my first baby, and so far, your blog has been very helpful! What I appreciate most is the diversity and variety in the birth stories you post – they get me to think about possibilities I may not have thought about before, and they also help to lessen my anxiety about the labor and delivery process.
      Thanks!

  2. What a shame and how strange to live in a world where people still cannot readily let others express their opinions freely ! There are many good things about the internet, but ignorant keyboard warriors are definitely not one of them. You should be massively proud of what that post achieved. I wish I could re-read it now but as I remember it was extremely balanced and well argued and certainly pretty obviously not something meant to be inflammatory, radical or disrespectful towards the views of other Mum’s or Professionals. It was just, as all your posts are, written honestly and from the heart. There’s me thinking it was 2014 and we all had freedom of speech!! Glad to see you’re back Clemmie look forward to continuing with reading your fab blog.
    P.S In terms of your next post, I think it would be interesting to hear about a Midwife’s point of view, emotions and feelings when birth’s do not go well. Obviously this is because of my own experience, but it’s kind of a taboo subject amongst Mum’s and so I wonder is it the same amongst Professionals??. There was a very moving link you posted once I think to a Mum’s story who actually lost her baby which in a small way I could relate to, as in a way I lost a baby the day Elin was born and I will never recover from it. The PTS alone is horrendous. But nobody ever talks about how this affects the Professionals surrounding the birth? Just a thought, though am sure it wouldn’t be too easy to either write or read. Either way Im so glad you’re back and can’t wait to get re-aquainted with your world! Ruth xxxxx

  3. I’m a new Mum (my baby is 10 weeks old) and I loved THAT post. I thought it was incredibly honest and refreshing. I shared it with my NCT group. A few weeks later when a friend gave birth I looked for it to send her the link and it had disappeared. I guessed something like this had happened and was really shocked. I found your views really helpful and supportive, it’s a shame more people can’t read it. Having such a dramatic response only proves that these topics need to be talked about. If only that could have happened in a way that was respectful of your personal and professional views.
    I would love to hear about your experience of going back to work. The emotional and practical challenges, child care choices, work/life/family balance etc.
    Thank you and welcome back!

  4. Welcome back Clemmie! You’ve been very much missed – certainly by me. I probably shouldn’t admit to the fact I kept checking in every Monday (& possibly mid week..!) to see if you’d updated, but after realising ‘that entry’ vanished I had a feeling you were taking a well earned break. I hope it’s been a relaxing one (as relaxing as having a midwifery job, a hubby & 2 children can be anyway)!

    There’s so much I’d love to see / read on this blog. I’ve always loved the differences in birth stories from other mothers – it was always a lovely highl

    • Oops! I pressed enter too quickly – I’m only on my phone, sorry!

      ** highlight of my Monday / Tuesday evenings to settle down & read through a few of my favourite blogs.

      As a midwife, have you ever considered writing about your own experiences? To you it may not seem as interesting as it would to your readers but I think you’d be pleasantly surprised – especially now so many are interested in the field. Talk of your daily (or nightly!) routines, even go back in time to your training days – I think it would make a lovely addition to your ever growing blog.

      I have lots of thoughts – but I’m not sure others would be as interested as I would, & as a blog writer I understand you must please all. I think whatever you write you will always capture an audience from your writing style & personality!

      Lovely to have you back Clemmie, & I thoroughly look forward to future posts!
      Laura xx

  5. Welcome back Clemmie! I would be interested to read about how you balance a demanding job whilst having young children – especially how you manage shift work and being on call – can imagine there are some carefully planned childcare logistics there!

  6. Sorry you’ve had to deal with such negativity. Bizarre.

    I’d love to read something about assisted deliveries. I didn’t really get any advice/info about forceps or ventouse prior to the birth of my daughter and after 4 failed attempts of forceps and the threat of the ventouse, I finally had an emergency c section. I found forceps to be a brutal experience that left both me and my daughter in a real mess.

    Welcome back! X

  7. Really glad your back, I love your blog but sad the post got taken down. Your post really helped me (and I am sure a lot of other new mums) at a time when I was full of guilt of failure to bf, posts like yours gave me my confidence back.

    I would like to read more about inductions I ended up 12 days late, 3 day failed induction resulting in an emergency c section. I have no ill feeling as I have my beautiful daughter here but would have liked to have been more prepared.

  8. Great to see you back, still think it was a fabulous, honest and well intentioned post. Don’t let it knock you, your doing a sterling job on here and it’s a shame it got seen negatively, I feel sure it must have given you much stress but onwards and upwards πŸ‘Ά xx

  9. Please don’t let these negative comments change who you are as a writer. I find your blog honest, useful and interesting. I’m sure that even Hillary Mantell gets trolled!

    Following on from your last post, I’d like to know more about ways to promote healing after a tear or episiotomy.

  10. Hi Clemmie I am loving your blog, I have only just come across it and I am on Maternity leave for the third time ! How I wished I had known about it before now! I would love to hear your thoughts on lots of things but firstly pregnancy after loss. I have experienced a lot of loss over the last 8 years but finally have three lovely children. It’s been a very long road but no one talks about the stress of a subsequent pregnancy after loss. Also even when the baby finally arrives safely all those milestones of what should have been never go away, and it’s all very much bittersweet. Thanks

  11. Really glad you’re back Clemmie πŸ™‚

    I’m sorry to hear you’ve had bother with negative comments etc, I don’t understand why people feel the need to act in such a ridiculous manner when they read something they don’t agree with, if you don’t like the advice just don’t take it!!
    ‘That post’ was actually my saviour, so I must say a huge thank you to you for it, it made a massive difference to me and my baby and I will be eternally grateful, I really will.

    I’d love a post on things that seem to have come as a huge surprise to me like prolapse, weak pelvic floor, pain from epesiotomy scar please if you can xxx

  12. That is quite sad but I totally see your point as I am a doctor and I feel sometimes people always take my personal opinion as a professional one. It is difficult. Especially with breast feeding being such a hot topic these days..!

  13. Just to echo all of the above really – glad you are back! I find there is a lot of online community input for natural birthing so it is refreshing to hear your views (as a mum as well as midwife). I totally subscribed to planning and having a natural birth and my midwife was fully supportive of that but I did sense that she held some tension or unspoken views about the natural birth community. I wish she had voiced that to me. I did not have the natural birth I planned and felt afterwards that I had been duped by the yoga and hypnobirthing etc. I’ve totally gotten over that now and would most likely plan the same again but thus time with more pragmatism. Do you think that there can be an increased working together of medical/health professionals alongside doula’s/hypnobirthing practitioners etc. without women feeling like each group were a ‘side’ to be on?

  14. Pleased to have you back! This blog has was great for me in late pregnancy and my boys first five months so far!
    In your absence, with less to read, I even started my own blog up!

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  16. Oh I do love a bit of controversy! But unfortunately I missed yours. Some people just like to get their knickers in a twist! I’m a bit behind on my bloglovin reading – Can you tell?! – and so I’m just catching up πŸ™‚ Welcome back! x

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