What do you picture when you think of a feminist?
I’ll be honest, before starting this degree, I said I wasn’t a feminist.
I mean, I wanted equal rights for men and women, but I had the mindset that anyone who was a decent human being thought that.
I had an image in my head of women burning their bra’s and being hugely emotional rather than getting their point across eloquently. I also refused to admit that I could ever be a feminist.
I was wrong.
Since starting this course and having a module on the history of women and midwifery, I think I can safely say I am a stark raving feminist!
I think women have pretty much had the raw end of the deal in all aspects, throughout the years. This is mainly because we have a uterus and grow the baby for the sake of the continuation of the human race.
We usually come second to men in the job stakes, because we will most probably want to have children at some point in our lives and therefore will want to take maternity leave.
When the said child is here, and is poorly, who usually gets the call to pick the child up/or makes the decision to stay home with the child?
Who because of this, usually ends up earning less than their male counterparts regardless of if they are absolutely the best employee in the company?
Who gets snide comments said about them, for instance “I wonder who she slept with to get that job”?
Who then cringes at the thought of staying late with their manager because he might make innuendo jokes again, that are ‘just banter’ but actually sexist predatory remarks?
Women…….. that’s who.
I have had some pretty heated debates with people on Instagram over the recent events in America, where women no longer have the choice to have an abortion if they so wish one in certain States.
One of the things that a few people said to me was that I should seriously rethink my career choice because I should be a protector of babies and not support killing them.
As a midwife, my view on the matter is absolutely nothing to do with abortion. It is purely about women no longer having a choice.
It just swings back around again to women being oppressed, being told what to do by men. I mean what’s next? Are we really reverting that far back that we’ll be back to the days soon where women were basically told this: “Don’t you dare appear to enjoy sex…… it is purely pleasure for the man” *rolls eyes so hard I fall over*.
Anyway, I have kind of digressed, purely because it is something I am so passionate about, but my main point is about what being a midwife is to me, since I was told by so many that I am in the wrong job.
𝐌𝐈𝐃𝗪𝐈𝐅𝐄: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐄𝐧𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐡 – ‘𝐌𝐢𝐝’ 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 & ‘𝗪𝐢𝐟𝐞’ 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧.
𝐌𝐈𝐃𝗪𝐈𝐅𝐄 = 𝗪𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝗪𝐎𝐌𝐀𝐍
▪️It means supporting women.
▪️Truly & wholeheartedly listening to them, providing them a safe & secure place that they can discuss their concerns & worries.
▪️ It is not coercing them into making decisions I want them to make. It is not inflicting judgement or bias onto them. It is giving women the opportunity to make decisions for themselves & know they are cared for & supported.
▪️ It is advocating for women when they feel unable to. It is knowing her wants & wishes & ensuring she receives everything she wants, regardless of whether you agree.
▪️ It is watching a woman decline an intervention which you know would give a better outcome, but having done your job properly she has made an informed choice which you fully support as her decision.
▪️ It is knowing you have given the woman the tools to have complete autonomy over her own body & decisions that she makes.
Anyone that tells me I’m in the wrong profession could not be more wrong.
𝘐 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯. 𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯. 𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘥𝘷𝘰𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯.
As always, if you have any questions for me, come and find me on Instagram @thelifeofastudentmidwife