If the supposedly ‘official’ due date for the Royal baby was the 13th of July, then in medical terms Kate is late. Poor old ‘weighty Katie’ is now over due. The bun has well and truly cooked and the world will carry on waiting to hear the news that she is in labour. So in light of this here are my top 10 Tips of things to do if you go over due.
(I have this reoccurring thought that maybe she has in fact already given birth. That maybe she birthed calmly in her own home with 2 supportive pro normal birth midwives. In the pool using her hyponobirthing techniques and now she is blissfully enjoying her baby moon back at her parents house in Berkshire. Just a thought)
Your EDD. The date which you have had etched in your mind since you first found out you were pregnant. The date the sonographer changed at your 12 week scan and made you less pregnant than you originally thought, and then changed again at your 20 week scan. You gaze at your diary counting down the days until you finish work and maternity leave starts. But as it is estimated that only as little as 5% of babies are born on their due date, and the majority of first time pregnancies going over due by a week, no wonder women get totally fed up when there is no sign of baby.
So I have decided to make a list of all the things you should do to keep you busy and stop your mind going crazy when you receive the 10th text of the day from yet another friend asking if you’ve had the baby yet?? (Um let me just check my vagina, nope still no baby yet).
- Don’t tell the whole world when your actual due date is. Or constantly update Facebook and Twitter with ’39+6 tomorrow we will get to meet our baby’. Because as I’ve just said you probably won’t have your baby on it’s due date unless you fall in the 5%. Just say ‘Oh some time next week’ and add a few days.
- Meet your work mates for lunch. And remind yourself how brilliant it is that you don’t have to worry about stressful deadlines and work related politics for at least 6 months, a year if you’re lucky.
- Read Birth Without Fear By Grantly Dick-Read. It’s peaceful and empowering especially if you’re feel a little freaked out as every person you meet in the street decides to tell you their horror birth story. Yeah thanks, really helpful.
- Put all those ‘How to Put You’re Baby into a Military Routine’ and ‘How to Be the Perfect Mother’ books back on the shelf. It’s not worth reading them yet, your baby certainly hasn’t read them. Maternal instinct is an amazing thing and has guided women Motherhood since Eve had Cain and Able.
- Unpack your labour bag and get your partner to re pack it. That way he will know where everything is and you won’t have to show him where your hair band is in the throws of labour. See my post on Labour Bag Essentials.
- Go to the cinema with your partner/best mate/sister. You’ll probably won’t go again until your baby reaches it’s first birthday. And anyway you’ll be so tired you’ll fall asleep half way through and miss the big reveal. I’ve never seen the end of Atonement.
- The same goes for that book sitting on your bedside table, finish it now or you’ll never finish it. I started reading again when my first was 18 months old, it was a big achievement not to be reading a 5 page ‘Lift the Flaps’ book.
- Have a pedicure. Mainly because it’s nice to look down at your toes after the baby has been born and not at your saggy tummy. I went for OPI Big Apple Red, it was bold and daring and made me feel a bit glamorous when I really felt like I had been up for 3 days at a warehouse rave.
- Clean your kitchen floor, on all fours. It will look shiny and clean but more importantly it will get your baby into the best position for birth. See my post Star Gazing Babies.
- Have sex with your partner. I know it’s the last thing either of you want to do but it’s nice to be intimate. I think ‘Spoons’ is the only practical position to try when carrying a huge bump. But more importantly oxytocin (the hormone that controls you contractions) is released during sex especially if you have an orgasm (bonus!) and semen contains prostaglandins which can help to ripen and soften the cervix.
What did you do to keep yourself busy when going over due?